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An Abundant Life – Embrace 2015 with a Ninja’s Focus

Whether you kicked metaphorical a** and took down names in 2014, or languished in distraction and misdirection, a fresh start for an abundant life is on the horizon.  In fact, that new opportunity is two days away!  Get ready for new beginnings and a new year.  Let go of the frustrations, pitfalls, or unexpected road blocks that occurred 2014.  If it was a good year, use your accomplishments - no matter how small or seemingly mundane - as fuel for a BREAKTHROUGH year in 2015. EMBRACE intention.  BELIEVE that you can and will make steady gains toward a more fulfilled life.  Let go of anger, fear, and regret.  CHOOSE to focus on the good. Take your POWER back. CHANGE one thing today that will make tomorrow...

Putting the Brakes on Stress

Have you ever had one of those days where nothing seems to go right?  Maybe you’re rushed in the morning and get a flat tire on your way to work, making you late and stuck in traffic.  Perhaps your bicycle chain pops off in a busy intersection and you miss yoga class due to the time spent fixing it on the sidewalk, you’re stressed and your fingers are covered in black grease.  Or much worse, you get the bad news that a friend is sick and facing the uncertainty of an unknown diagnosis and unclear prognosis. You want to help but aren’t sure how. Sometimes a series of unfortunate events unfold before your eyes, face, and entire being. I won’t bore you with the details of...

Personality Type:  Know Yourself

Personality type has its roots in a psychological theory dating back to the 1920's. The Swiss psychiatrist, Carl Jung (1875-1961) known for his work on the psyche, ego, personal unconscious, collective unconscious, archetypes, and dream analysis also developed the enduring theory of personality types based on psychological opposites.  Jung and  Sigmund Freud collaborated from about 1907-1909 addressing Freud’s mission of making the unconscious conscious through the practice of psychoanalysis. Jung’s personality theory explains normal differences between healthy people.  He concluded that these differences in behavior stem from inborn tendencies to use our minds in different ways and can be influenced by culture, family, and the environment. Each of us possesses all six characteristics he defined in his personality theory, but we favor one or the other...

Psychology Today: The Horror of Addiction

This article written by Heather Edwards was published by Mark Banschick, M.D. in Psychology Today. You found out that a loved one is addicted. You feel desperate, scared, and helpless. Your family is in a state of shock. Nobody knows what to do. The media stories of overdoses, death, and failed attempts at recovery flood your mind. You’re terrified that your friend, brother, or wife will be the next statistic. Suddenly, nothing matters more than knowing your loved one is safe, healthy, and drug free. We’ve all heard of tough love. What this means is being real about the situation. Confront the problem, and your loved one. If you’ve been enabling the drug abuse in any way, it’s time to stop. You may be unaware of the ways in which you’ve actually sustained the problem through your acts of...

Psychology Today: When Media Becomes Exploitation

This article was written by Heather Edwards and published during the 2014 Winter Olympics by Mark Banschick, M.D. in Psychology Today.  It summarizes the exploitive media interview with Bode Miller about the loss of his brother at the completion of his run, and the impact of grief.   This Olympics featured a phenomenal performance of the competitors in the men's super-G. Many of us were riveted and delighted by the competition. In the end, Norway's Kjetil Jansrud won the gold medal, Andrew Weibrecht brought home the silver, and Bode Miller rounded out the podium tied for the bronze with Canadian, Jan Hudek.  It was an awe inspiring show of the world's best athletes. Finding Pain in Victory: At the end of Bode Miller’s run, in the moment of victory and realizing that the sacrifice, sweat, and...

Confessions of an HGTV Addict: How it mirrors therapy

I admit it.  Although most of my waking hours are spent focused on my work, family, and various hobbies, my guilty pleasure is watching an episode of Property Brothers, House Hunters, or Love It or List It on HGTV.  They’re utterly decadent in this fast paced New York City rat race to the finish line - which inevitably keeps moving away the closer we get to it! It’s been a few years since this HGTV affliction began - and with the passing of time it doesn’t seem to dissipate.  To better understand the fascination and sheer pleasure experienced, I decided to take a closer look at the dynamic layers of content in each show. To begin, all are about homes.  Who doesn’t love home?  It’s where the...

Psychology Today – The Fire of Love

Do You Want A Better Love Life?  This article was published on February 12, 2014 in Psychology Today.  It was coauthored by  Mark Banschick, M.D. We all want love. We want to be seen, validated, treasured and wanted. And we want to give. We want the freshness of love to invigorate our lives and put the whole world into perspective. Love is more than sex…more than adoration…more than warm memories. It is alive and vibrant, like a warm fire on a cold winter’s day. Keep it stoked and it stays alive. Let it lie fallow, and don’t expect it to last. With winter upon us, we've teamed up with guest blogger Heather Edwards about kindling more love in your life. Good things need attention – it’s a lesson about happiness. A Day of Love  Consider...

The Four Horsemen vs. The Michelangelo Effect

The problems are obvious.  What are the solutions? Sometimes the key to discovering what works best in a relationship is evaluating and eliminating what we know doesn’t work.  We know there are a few scientifically proven actions that destroy relationships.  John Gottman calls these the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”.  So let’s start there. The first is Criticism.  Unless this is constructive with the intent of helping, it’s probably hurtful.  In destructive criticism, couples will attack each other’s personality or character in an effort to prove who is right and who is wrong.  It leaves both feeling angry and dissatisfied in the long and short run.  These statements tend to start with generalizations, and include absolute words like “always” and “never”. The second is Contempt.  In this communication...