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The Butterfly: In a Time of Loss, a Symbol of Transcendence

Loss. Heartbreak. Tragedy. Despair. It’s felt by millions everyday. Today, it hits my hometown. Confused, saddened, enraged. I’m moved by the heartfelt Facebook posts of friends, classmates, and neighbors memorializing the life and gifts of a friend, mother, sister, and role model passing on too soon. Yesterday, she was murdered. Domestic Violence claimed her life. It's a senseless, tragic misuse of power and control. According to DomesticViolenceStatistics.org: Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten. Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined. Studies suggest that...

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Corporate Culture: Survival in the Mean Girls’ Club

Welcome to the mean girls club! Unless you're ready to sail the seas of cheese, you've got to step up and ground yourself in what can be a gut wrenching work culture. Politics, alliances, agendas, clicks, personalities, micro-management, and worst of all - the blame game are just a few of the head trips that play out. Where there’s position, power, and money, there’s competition, manipulation, and greed. So use these tips to stay steady and true to you. At the end of the day, it’s your conscience that allows you to rest comfortably in the arms of Morpheus (the Ancient Greek God of Sleep). Boundaries: Recognize what you have power over. Focus on what falls within that realm and do your job like a pro....

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The Narcissistic Injury: Ouch! Your Ego Got Bruised

Yep!  It hurts! You know it. It’s that moment of psychological knock-down. Someone took a sucker punch at your psyche. It feels like an existential crisis, an emotional assault, or plain and simple embarrassment. You just experienced a narcissistic injury.  You know the scenario, you approached a situation or person with an “I got this” attitude, then Whamo!, your ego took a hard right south. You feel stupid, ill prepared, and less than worthy.  Sometimes egos take a beating when they're too expansive. It’s empowering to feel strong and confident. It’s what you want, but how do you temper it so it’s balanced, wise, and grounded? After all, you don’t want to be perceived as cocky, self absorbed, or the “n” word - narcissistic! Ugh! This is a conversation...

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The Pain of Grief: and how to live through it

Suddenly someone you love is gone. You're faced with an irreversible new reality - a life without a loved one you thought would always be there. You feel hopeless, distraught, and life has lost its meaning. Grief can send you spiraling into despair. A death, break up, or an illness can dramatically change your life. Each type of loss has a profound effect on wellbeing. But when armed with awareness of the natural processes of healing, it can be easier to navigate this unwanted life transition. There is a beginning, middle, and end. And it gets better. Grief can make you stronger, kinder, more gracious, and loving when you come out on the other side of it. But it requires a passing through. It can feel like a...

Psychology Today: 4 Ways to Clear Your Mind

[caption id="attachment_2349" align="alignleft" width="320"] Source: Photo: iStock[/caption] Clean Your Mind of Harmful Toxins - And Feel Good Again Post published by Mark Banschick M.D. on Aug 04, 2015 in Psychology Today. By Heather Edwards - Guest Blogger As I sit down to write this blog, I'm struck by three common themes in conversations with clients, family, and friends. Most of us have clarity about how we want to feel - happy, free, grounded. But instead, we end up frustrated, overwhelmed, and burdened. We get stuck and confused about how to internalize fleeting positivity in an enduring way. In the quest for the seemingly elusive states of calm and life satisfaction, several common toxins manifest. But you can change them! Or better, clear them out. Take stock of your life and notice which...

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10 Tips for Gaining Clarity on ANYTHING

If you’re anything like me you struggle with staying on task.  In this immediate-gratification-digital-world it’s a challenge to sustain focus on anything for any uninterrupted amount of time. The average attention span is estimated to be about five minutes long for a two year old child, and up to 20 minutes in older children and adults. Just guessing - but it will probably take you longer than 20 minutes of focused attention to achieve your dreams.  Try out these 10 tips for clearing and clarifying your mind.. Establish a Morning Ritual:  What you do in the morning sets the tone for the day. Begin each day with 10 minutes of nurturing self care.  Stretch, breathe, meditate, or read a few pages of a self improvement book.  See how...


The Ripple Effect: Your Power Source

Among the hundreds of people I’ve coached and counseled, there’s a striking and honorable theme. It’s one that prompts people to seek support in becoming their best self.  It's one that guides behavior, values, and wants. It motivates their reflection, desire for improvement, and a genuine regard for having a positive impact on the greater good. So let’s give credit where credit is due.  After all, that’s what keeps us going. The theme I’m referring to is the ripple effect. Regardless of the particulars that bring people to coaching or counseling, clients share a common concern about the imprint they leave on society - their family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, clients. This collective consciousness about their personal effect on what extends beyond their immediate reach impresses me.  So much...

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5 Tips to Reclaim Your Life.

Is ego, fear, or someone else’s vision keeping you stuck? You are the expert, master, and keeper of your life. What are your guiding philosophies?  Are you functioning from a place of blame, entitlement, lack, fear, and greed? Or from a position of responsibility, abundance, wealth, courage, and charity? And I’m not talking about money - but rather about strength, purpose and meaning. Maybe your mind is scattered and unfocused, or it seems too late to change course now. Maybe you forgot to ask questions and push back a little along the way. Perhaps what you want seems unobtainable. Maybe you’ve never been a lucky person, or there’s too much burdening you to see the possibilities. Our perspective is much like a camera lens. Sometimes we need to stop to adjust...

4 Steps to Bump Up Your Life

Why is it so difficult, and so important, to know the difference between thoughts and feelings? Sometimes thoughts happen so fast that they go unnoticed.   Instead, what we experience is a pit in the stomach, a racing heart and mind, or a sense of hopelessness that things will get better. It’s true that negative emotions seem instantaneous. They're automatic and natural consequences of events, right? Wrong!  That’s just not the case!   Although they can wash over us like a tidal wave, leaving us helplessly drowning in sorrow, fear, or numbness - there is a choice you can make between stressful events and negative feelings. Except for those real life fight or flight situations, where your safety or life is in actual danger, or in some post traumatic stress...

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Mind Like Water – Mastering Overwhelm

Raise your hand if you’re feeling overwhelmed.  Whether work, family, charity, your creative mind, or any other plethora of possibilities are pulling at your heart and psyche - overwhelm threatens your ability to give, forgive, focus, and be truly present. Maybe your inner chatter is telling you things should be different, you could be better, and wondering ‘why bother’ because it seems too hard to be the way you want to be, and feel the way you want to feel. Life is tough. Truth. Behold. It’s time to wake up. Step up. Let go. Be here now. The Taoist practice of "mind like water” is the embodiment of letting go. It is an open awareness, acceptance, and presence in the only moment in time that currently exists - this...