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Bitter Endings:  How to free yourself of lingering resentment

That lingering resentment from things gone wrong is hard to shake. Whether a bad break up or sudden job loss caused the grief, it’s best to resolve it and move on. Holding onto stress has negative physical, neurological, and emotional consequences.  In a perfect world, we’d all get exactly what we want when we want it...

Psychology Today: The Horror of Addiction

This article written by Heather Edwards was published by Mark Banschick, M.D. in Psychology Today. You found out that a loved one is addicted. You feel desperate, scared, and helpless. Your family is in a state of shock. Nobody knows what to do. The media stories of overdoses, death, and failed attempts at recovery flood your mind. You’re terrified that your friend, brother, or wife will be the next statistic. Suddenly, nothing matters more than knowing your loved one is safe, healthy, and drug free. We’ve all heard of tough love. What this means is being real about the situation. Confront the problem, and your loved one. If you’ve been enabling the drug abuse in any way, it’s time to stop. You may be unaware of the ways in which you’ve actually sustained the problem through your acts of...

Psychology Today: Confessions of an HGTV Addict

Confessions of an HGTV addict and how it mirrors psychotherapy. This is another of my guest blogs published by Mark Banschick, M.D. in Psychology Today.  It's an entertaining twist on the process of psychotherapy and coaching. I admit it. Although most of my waking hours are spent focused on my work, family, and hobbies, my Saturday morning guilty pleasure is watching an episode of Property Brothers, House Hunters, orLove It or List It on HGTV. They’re utterly decadent in this fast paced New York City race to the finish line—which inevitably keeps moving away the closer we get to it! It’s been a few years since this HGTV affliction began—and with the passing of time it doesn’t seem to dissipate. To better understand the fascination and sheer pleasure experienced, I decided to take a closer look...

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Psychology Today: When Media Becomes Exploitation

This article was written by Heather Edwards and published during the 2014 Winter Olympics by Mark Banschick, M.D. in Psychology Today.  It summarizes the exploitive media interview with Bode Miller about the loss of his brother at the completion of his run, and the impact of grief.   This Olympics featured a phenomenal performance of the competitors in the men's super-G. Many of us were riveted and delighted by the competition. In the end, Norway's Kjetil Jansrud won the gold medal, Andrew Weibrecht brought home the silver, and Bode Miller rounded out the podium tied for the bronze with Canadian, Jan Hudek.  It was an awe inspiring show of the world's best athletes. Finding Pain in Victory: At the end of Bode Miller’s run, in the moment of victory and realizing that the sacrifice, sweat, and...

Confessions of an HGTV Addict: How it mirrors therapy

I admit it.  Although most of my waking hours are spent focused on my work, family, and various hobbies, my guilty pleasure is watching an episode of Property Brothers, House Hunters, or Love It or List It on HGTV.  They’re utterly decadent in this fast paced New York City rat race to the finish line - which inevitably keeps moving away the closer we get to it! It’s been a few years since this HGTV affliction began - and with the passing of time it doesn’t seem to dissipate.  To better understand the fascination and sheer pleasure experienced, I decided to take a closer look at the dynamic layers of content in each show. To begin, all are about homes.  Who doesn’t love home?  It’s where the...

Psychology Today – Got Relationship Blues?

(Hint: Stop Criticizing) Why endless criticism is doomed to failure. Published on April 4, 2014 by Mark Banschick, M.D. in Psychology Today   Look at your relationship. The problems seem obvious. But, what are the solutions? Heather Edwards breaks down relationship problems into a digestible form,making it easier for you to do what’s needed to be happier. The Good Relationship: Sometimes the key to discovering what works best in a relationship is eliminating what we knowdoesn’t work. There are a number of scientifically proven actions that destroy relationships. John Gottman calls these the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.” So let’s start there.  Criticism: The first is Criticism. Unless this is constructive with the intent of helping, it’s probably hurtful. In destructive criticism, couples will attack each other’s personality or character in an effort to prove who is right and who is wrong. It leaves both feeling angry and...

Psychology Today – The Fire of Love

Do You Want A Better Love Life?  This article was published on February 12, 2014 in Psychology Today.  It was coauthored by  Mark Banschick, M.D. We all want love. We want to be seen, validated, treasured and wanted. And we want to give. We want the freshness of love to invigorate our lives and put the whole world into perspective. Love is more than sex…more than adoration…more than warm memories. It is alive and vibrant, like a warm fire on a cold winter’s day. Keep it stoked and it stays alive. Let it lie fallow, and don’t expect it to last. With winter upon us, we've teamed up with guest blogger Heather Edwards about kindling more love in your life. Good things need attention – it’s a lesson about happiness. A Day of Love  Consider...

Empower Your Inner Goddess – Yoga and Coaching Beach Retreat

Stretch your body. Nourish your soul. Free your spirit. Relax in the quiet seaside retreat of Kismet, Fire Island: Join a small group of amazing women eager to find their center, build their energy, develop their passion, and empower their spirit. Realign your body and mind: Experience Beach Yoga, Coaching for Visualizing Your Ideal Self, De-cluttering Your Mind, Building Energy Sources, Improving Your Mind-Body-Emotion Connection, Embracing Empowering Beliefs, Sunset Yoga, Yoga Dance, Chakra Meditation and Relaxation Exercises. Leave the island feeling invigorated and ready to live an inspired, confident, and passionate life! Our program features: Fresh whole foods and juices.  Breakfast x2, Lunch x2, Dinner x2, and healthy snacks. Mealtimes are relaxed.  Enjoy healthy, balanced nutrition and the company of creative, inspired Retreat participants and instructors. Fall asleep to the sound of waves crashing...

The Four Horsemen vs. The Michelangelo Effect

The problems are obvious.  What are the solutions? Sometimes the key to discovering what works best in a relationship is evaluating and eliminating what we know doesn’t work.  We know there are a few scientifically proven actions that destroy relationships.  John Gottman calls these the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”.  So let’s start there. The first is Criticism.  Unless this is constructive with the intent of helping, it’s probably hurtful.  In destructive criticism, couples will attack each other’s personality or character in an effort to prove who is right and who is wrong.  It leaves both feeling angry and dissatisfied in the long and short run.  These statements tend to start with generalizations, and include absolute words like “always” and “never”. The second is Contempt.  In this communication...